Wedding Guidelines
The attire you wear for your wedding will depend largely on the kind of wedding you and your fiancĂ©e want to have. The size of the guest list, how many attendants you’ll have, the time and location of the event – all of these things will help determine how formal your wedding will be. There’s a formalwear style for every kind of wedding, day or night, traditional or modern. The guides below will give you a brief rundown of the two most common types of weddings – traditional & contemporary – and the men’s formal attire that goes with each. Use these guidelines, but remember your choices should reflect your own personal tastes as well – particularly when it comes to the use of color and themes…
| A Traditional Wedding | ||||
| Participant | Very Formal Evening |
Formal Evening |
Very Formal Daytime |
Semi Formal Evening |
| Groom | Black Fulldress (tailcoat) with white wing collar pique’ shirt, pique’ vest and bow tie.May wear sprig from bride’s bouquet as boutonniere. |
Black Tuxedo, white pleated formal shirt, bow tie, vest or cummerbund to match tuxedo lapels. White dinner jacket with formal trousers for summer or tropical climates. |
Cutaway coat, grey striped trousers, grey vest, ascot or striped four-in-hand tie. Optional top hat, spats, grey gloves. |
Grey stroller, with striped trousers, grey vest, four-in-hand tie with white pleated formal shirt. Gloves are optional. |
| Best Man, Groomsmen, Ushers, Jr Groomsmen | Identical to groom with different boutonnieres. | Same as groom, perhaps with different boutonniere. | Similar to groom in style with possible variation in tie or shirt. | Identical to groom with different boutonnieres. |
| Fathers, Grandfathers |
Identical to groom with different boutonnieres. | Same as groomsmen. | Same as groom or same as ushers. | Same as groom or same as ushers. |
| Ringbearer | Identical to groom. | Identical to groom. | Identical to groom. | Identical to groom. |
| Guests | May wear tuxedos or, if you specify ‘White Tie’ on your invitations, guests should wear fulldress identical to groom. | Should be formally dressed. Specify ‘Black Tie’ on invitations. | You may suggest ‘Traditional Morning Attire’ on invitations if you would like your guests to be formally dressed. |
Formalwear optional. |
| A Contemporary Wedding | ||||
| Participant | Very Formal Evening |
Formal Evening |
Very Formal Daytime |
Semi Formal Evening |
| Groom | Black Fulldress or other color tailcoat applicable. Formal shirt, vest or cummerbund. If wearing black fulldress, wear white wing collar shirt with white vest & bow tie. | Tuxedo or tailcoat in range of colors – dark for fall or winter, lighter shades for spring or summer – or white for any time of year. Formal shirt should be white. | Cutaway coat, grey striped trousers, grey vest, ascot or striped four-in-hand tie. | Tuxedo or tailcoat in range of colors – dark for fall/winter, lighter shades for spring/summer or tropical climates. |
| Best Man, Groomsmen, Ushers, Jr Groomsmen |
Similar to groom, or same as ushers, or in a classic tuxedo. | Similar tailcoats or tuxedos to groom. Choose colored vests to match bridesmaid dresses. |
Similar to groom in style or can wear matching stroller coats with striped or matching trousers. |
Similar to the groom. Coordinated in color with bridesmaid dresses. |
| Fathers, Grandfathers |
Same as groom, or same as ushers, or in a classic tuxedo. | Similar to ushers or in classic tuxedo. | Same as groom or same as ushers, or in classic tuxedo. | Either similar to male attendants or own choice of tux. |
| Ringbearer | Same as groom. | Same as groom. | Same as groom, or wear stroller. | Same as groom or groomsmen. |
| Guests | Formalwear similar to groom. Consider specifying ‘Black Tie Invited’ on invitation; guests should wear black tuxedos. |
Formalwear optional. Consider specifying ‘Black Tie Invited’ on invitations. | Formalwear optional. | Formalwear optional. |



